Unforgiveness is a huge thorn in the side of many Christians and non-Christians alike. This is a stronghold that must be addressed because of the serious ramifications of allowing it to go unchecked.
Unforgiveness affects every area of our lives: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual.
A case in point that helps drive home the dangers of unforgiveness is the story of Cain and Abel. I can’t help but think about the fact that Cain could never have imagined that his refusal to put his emotions in check would lead him to murder his own brother.
Cain’s story demonstrates the dangers of unforgiveness. Cain became angry with God first and foremost because things did not work out for him the way he intended.
Because Cain refused to correct the breach between God and himself, his anger and unforgiveness began to fester and manifest into hatred and eventually murder.
My whole goal in recapping that story is to demonstrate how unforgiveness grows and continually manifests itself. It is our responsibility to put unforgiveness in check. If we don’t, we can take heed to the word that God spoke to Cain:
Then the Lord said to Cain, “Why are you angry? Why is your face downcast? 7 If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must rule over it.”
Unforgiveness and anger open the door for the enemy to come in and wreak havoc in our lives.
In the book of Matthew 18:23-35, the Word of God teaches us that when we refuse to forgive, we are turned over to torturers (demons).
We are tortured in our minds, in our hearts and in our spirit. God did not make us to hold unforgiveness. When we do, it places extreme stress on our minds and bodies.
Unforgiveness will many times manifest itself as physical illness in the lives of many people.
Forgiving others ensures that we remain physically and spiritually healthy.
Unforgiveness also causes a breach between God and His children. We cannot receive anything from God when we walk in unforgiveness because it damages our faith. When we refuse to forgive others, we lose confidence in our relationship with God and we can’t approach Him in faith.
The word of God tells us in Mark 11:22-26 that if we expect for our faith to work, we cannot come to God holding things in our heart against others. God also tells us that we cannot expect to be forgiven if we can’t forgive others.
One thing that has helped me when I feel like I have been wronged by others is remembering all the times that God has forgiven me. When I think about how God forgives me over and over again and continues to extend mercy unto me, it brings everything into perspective.
If I want to continue to receive God’s mercy, I must give mercy to others.
I will be the first to admit that forgiving others is not always the easiest thing to do. However, it is a must in the life of a believer.
If you are holding unforgiveness, the first thing you must do is make up in your mind that you will forgive.
The word of God tells us in Romans 12:19 that vengeance belongs to the Lord and it is His job to repay those that hurt us in life.
We have to release our hurts to God and allow Him to do His job. He is going to be just and fair in the way He deals with those who have hurt us.
The second thing you must do is lean on God for your strength. The Bible tells us that the Holy Spirit helps us in our infirmities (Romans 8:26-27). It may be hard for you to formulate the words to ask God to help you.
All you have to do is just give over to the Holy Spirit and allow Him to take the lead. Lastly, whatever God instructs you to do, be sure to obey God. Don’t fight against the counsel of God.
God knows best and His ways are not always our ways (Isaiah 55:8)
Follow His way because His goal is to bring healing to all parties involved in the situation. Trust God and let go!
Prayer for Healing From Unforgiveness
“Father God in the name of Jesus… touch my brother/sister on today. They are struggling with unforgiveness and they are seeking you for their healing. God, you are a healer and you have promised us that if we ask anything in faith, you will grant it to us. I pray that healing be their portion on today and that wherever hurt resides, you will replace it with your peace and your joy. Lord, help my brother/sister let go on today and trust you. I declare that the stronghold of unforgiveness is broken as they give over to your divine will. In the name of Jesus I pray. Amen!”
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Blessings!